Ever Wondered Why You Feel Stressed, Guilty, or Emotionally Drained?
The answer might lie in your roots. Trauma shapes how we think, feel, and respond, but the good news is, you can break free. Start your healing journey today with our FREE self-help program for women.
When Overwhelm Takes Over
When I was raising my little ones, I often felt overwhelmed. Some days, it felt like I was drowning in emotions. Eventually, I was diagnosed with depression in my 30s and put on antidepressants.
Years later, I turned my life around. Today, I dedicate my time to helping busy moms love themselves unapologetically and create the life they desire.
Are you a mom who feels exhausted, stressed, or guilty whenever you take time for yourself?
Do you sometimes feel tempted to vent to someone, or even on social media, just to let it out?
You are not alone. Many women silently fight the same battle every day.
Looking at the Roots, Not Just the Fruits
Think about it: If you were a farmer disappointed by a poor harvest, would you only examine the crop? Of course not! You’d look at the seed, the soil, the fertilizer, the weather conditions, and the timing.
The same is true for us as human beings. When someone is struggling, the answer often lies in their roots: their family of origin, early life experiences, and the environment where they grew up.
What Exactly Is Trauma?
The roots of emotional struggles often go back to prenatal, perinatal, and postnatal factors. Family, culture, and parenting style shape every person’s character.
Trauma isn’t just about genetics; it’s passed through words, behaviors, unspoken communication, and even energy. And it’s not about the event itself; it’s about how the individual experiences it.
Two people can go through the same event and react completely differently.
Trauma is an emotional and psychological response to a deeply distressing situation that overwhelms one’s ability to cope.
Where Trauma Comes From: Common Causes and Their Impact
Trauma can happen at any age, but childhood trauma often has the deepest and longest-lasting effects. Here are some common sources and their impact:
1. Physical, Emotional, or Sexual Abuse
Any form of abuse can cause trauma. Physical abuse leaves scars on the body and the mind. Emotional abuse, constant criticism, rejection, or manipulation destroy self-worth. Sexual abuse shatters trust and creates shame.
Survivors often struggle with anxiety, depression, and PTSD, and forming healthy relationships can feel impossible.
2. Domestic Violence
Growing up in a violent home—or being in an abusive relationship as an adult—creates fear and instability. Even if the child is not directly harmed, witnessing violence creates long-term emotional wounds.
Survivors often develop hypervigilance, trust issues, and a heightened stress response that persists long after the violence stops.
3. Natural Disasters
Floods, earthquakes, hurricanes, and volcanic eruptions not only destroy property but also erode emotional security. Survivors may experience flashbacks, nightmares, and survivor’s guilt, particularly if lives were lost.
4. War and Civil Unrest
Living in conflict zones or experiencing war-related violence leads to complex trauma. People may witness torture, lose loved ones, or be displaced. This often results in PTSD, anxiety, and dissociation long after the conflict ends.
Learn more about how war trauma impacts mental health.
5. Serious Accidents or Illnesses
Life-threatening accidents or chronic illnesses disrupt a person’s sense of safety. Trauma from these events can lead to constant fear, avoidance of reminders, and grief for lost abilities.
6. Prolonged Poverty and Unmet Emotional Needs
Poverty is more than financial struggle; it’s ongoing stress that impacts mental health. Children raised in poverty experience chronic uncertainty, anxiety, and insecurity.
When caregivers are emotionally unavailable due to stress or neglect, children lack secure attachment, leaving them vulnerable to low self-esteem and depression later in life.
Why This Matters
All these experiences share a common thread: they evoke overwhelming feelings of helplessness and fear. When they occur during critical stages of development, the damage can be profound.
Understanding your roots is the first step toward healing.
No Two Childhoods Are Alike
Even siblings grow up in different circumstances—parents change, finances shift, and stress levels vary. Each child’s experience is unique.
Types of Trauma
- Acute Trauma: A single shocking event, like witnessing a murder
- Chronic Trauma: Repeated harmful situations, such as long-term domestic violence
- Complex Trauma: Exposure to multiple traumas, often beginning in childhood
How Trauma Manifests in Adulthood
Unresolved trauma doesn’t vanish; it changes form. It affects emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and even physical health.
Here are some of the most common ways trauma shows up in adult life:
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) – Intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, nightmares, and hypervigilance
- Anxiety and Depression – Persistent fear, sadness, hopelessness, and withdrawal
- Flashbacks & Nightmares – Sudden replays of trauma triggered by sounds, smells, or sights
- Dissociation – Feeling detached from reality or emotionally numb
- Emotional Numbness – Inability to feel joy, sadness, or love
- Cognitive Struggles – Brain fog, difficulty concentrating, and poor memory
- Low Self-Esteem – Persistent feelings of worthlessness or not being “good enough”
Read our full guide: How Trauma Manifests in Adulthood
Healing Is Possible
If you recognize yourself in these patterns, know this: you are not broken—you are wounded. And wounds can heal.
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Final Thoughts: You Deserve Healing
Your past may have shaped you, but it does not define your future. Every day is a chance to rewrite your story. You are worthy of love, peace, and happiness. Start with one small step today—because you deserve it.
